The
attention Adhesion theory dictates that people will have a hard time taking
their eyes off of two things. 1) A goal (such as an attractive woman) or 2) a
rival/threat, such as another alpha male who could steal your attractive woman
“goal” away from you. You have evolved to basically stare at one of these two
things in any social setting, and have a hard time looking away from either one
of them. This comes from an evolutionary process of seeking a viable mate and
then guarding that mate.
In
other words, you’re built to look for a hot woman, to want to have sex with
her, and then to want to defend her from other men who are looking at her. So
you will be fluctuating between looking at a girl you’re interested in having
sex with, and looking at other guys who you think are competing for this same
girl’s attention. Sounds like a typical night out at a club to me. Incidentally
from my days working part time as a bouncer to help pay for university I’d say
this is how 90% of all bar fights start!
As
intelligent and sophisticated as we think we are, people still do most things
based purely out of instinct. You are still heavily controlled by your
instincts weather you like it or not. Understanding this and learning how to
use it to your advantage is what can take your game to the next level.
You
are genetically evolved to stare at attractive people. A woman will stare at an
attractive man because she is programmed to want to have sex with him. A better
looking, muscular, fit man is a signal that he is healthy and will be a
preferred partner and produce superior genetic offspring. Likewise with women,
men are conditioned to stare at beautiful women. A woman’s beauty is a key
signal for genetic superiority fertility and the ability to produce healthy
offspring. Now I’m not saying that you should want to have sex only for
reproduction. I’m simply pointing out the reason why we happen to stare at good
looking members of the opposite sex.
So
why do guys get caught looking at other guys. The only other thing a guy will
stare at as much as the girl he desires is another man that he is threatened
by. I don’t mean directly threatened like they are going to fight, I mean
threatened like this other guy is going to steal his girl, or his potential
girl away. This is also a programmed instinct. You have evolved to pay close
attention to any potential threat or competition in the form of another man who
could win over the girl you are interested in. The key point here is that you
will only perceive the other guy as a threat if he is in good shape and looks
good. You know exactly what I am talking about. If some 140 lb scrawny weakling
of a guy who is poorly dressed walks past the girl you have been eyeing in the
bar you probably won’t worry too much that he is going to sweep her off her
feet. But if a 200lb muscular sharply dressed Adonis walks by her, then you
immediately feel pangs of jealously and will most likely end up staring at him
more than her.
Don’t
ever get caught doing this!
In
a social setting when there is an attractive girl around, do you catch yourself
staring at other guys who are close by or interact with her? If so then you’re
viewing him as the alpha male which makes you the subordinate, or beta male.
You can’t get caught doing this because everyone present will pick up on it
including the attractive girl you are interested in. If you find that you are
constantly catching stares from other guys when you’re near good looking women,
then you know they are viewing YOU as an alpha male.
Alpha
males know they can have women and therefore don’t get caught up staring at
women they are attracted to as much as beta males. Alpha males also don’t get
caught staring at other males because they rarely feel that other men are any
real competition to them. Beta males on the other hand get caught staring at
both attractive women and other well built men. So even if a woman is looking
at a beta guy, but that guy happens to be looking at you, he is subconsciously
telling her that you are more dominant than him simply by looking at you.
Women
pick up on all of this and can easily identify who the confident alpha males
are. Women will feel more attraction for the males who spend less time looking
at them for this very reason. This is how avoidance and relative indifference
to a woman in a social setting can cause her to be attracted to you. You are
simply showing her that you are socially dominant.
Now
if you can only choose between being one of these two (alpha or beta), I’ll bet
any money you would rather be the alpha than the beta, and it’s totally within
your power to decide. You can choose to dress well, you can work on your moves
and the way you approach women in social settings, and most of all you can
build an alpha body that women will want, and men will be jealous of. In the
end you want her eyes on you instead of any other guy. You even want the other
guys looking at you because that is subconscious indicator to her that you are
in fact the MAN.
John
Barban is the Author of the Adonis Index Workout, a specific method for
building a guy’s body into its most attractive shape: the shape women find
attractive and that creates social dominance with men.
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